We've been offering her a steady 30 hours of 1:1 in her playroom between Tod, Tracy and I since the beginning of September.
I was blessed enough to participate in the second Son-Rise training program in early October. The advanced training adequately named "Maximum Impact" was rejuvenating as I continued working on my own studentship and solidified my purpose in my daughter's "Son-Rise Program" (SRP). It also brought-up negative beliefs I was holding around her exclusive and repetitious behaviours (SRP calls them Ism's you may know them as stims.) You see, Mika loves interacting with us and I believed she didn't need her favourite Isms things competing with us in her playroom. She likes all small things, especially pebbles and legos! No, she doesn't "properly" line them-up in good autistic behaviours but prefers to pick them up and throws them away, and repeats this circle for what I believed would be until the end of times (Insert giggles & laughters here). I believed that this ism wasn't good for her and made her look anxious and ultimately I would end her ism by either removing the objects or herself from the situation. Subsequently, I showed no trust in this ism and this prevented me to fully join with her. Joining being the cornerstone of the SRP, I was in turmoil with my attitude ( joining is doing the exact exclusive and repetitious behaviour your child is doing waiting for the ultimate green light: a look in the eyes. When I join sincerely with Mika in her issm, I tell her that I love her the way she is and I care for her interests and what she loves to do. I'm creating a bridge from my world to her world.) Two weeks ago, I finally respected her needs to smash the legos around and actually brought the legos inside the playroom. I joined with her by smashing the legos (how fun!) and I sincerely didn't care how long we were going to do this or if we were going to try and stack them. Guess what? After what seemed a very short time (smashing was fun!) and after flashing me multiple green lights, I leaped and challenged her by starting my own tower of legos and she helped me!! The day I let go of the outcomes regarding the activity and loved her by being 100% present, she stacked a tower of legos high with determination and with a wide smile! What a gift!
We've been offering her a steady 30 hours of 1:1 in her playroom between Tod, Tracy and I since the beginning of September.
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